Why I’m Happy I Went To My High School Reunion

So why, last Saturday, did I attend my 20-year high school reunion?

Easy — because life is short. And boring and dry. And if we don’t occasionally force ourselves to face the most uncomfortable of situations, we shrivel up and die in front of the television, a half-eaten bag of stale Fritos in one hand, the remote control in the other.

– Jeff Pearlman, How I learned to love my high school reunion

This past weekend, I attended my 10-year high school reunion.

When I decided I wanted to go, I got a lot of flack from people. Apparently nobody likes to be thrown into awkward social situations. But curiosity got the best of me, so I clicked ‘yes’ on the Evite and didn’t look back.

As I asked people I am still close with about going, the excuses poured in: “I talk to the people I want to talk to and that’s that.” OR, “I know everything about people from Facebook.” OK, point noted. But, even as a social media nut, I can attest to the power of actually seeing people. High school was hard for everyone, from the popular kids, down to the geeks. I think we’re all old enough now to realize we needed those horrible years to grow.

To be honest, I was nervous to go, and I don’t get nervous often. After hearing some horror stories from older friends, I thought everyone would stay within their cliques and nobody would mingle. Thankfully, that was completely wrong in my case.

Once I had a glass of wine in my hand — liquid courage — the guard came down and I relaxed. I quickly found my voice getting scratchy because I was talking so much…and it wasn’t only due to the wine. I was simply enjoying catching up with people I spent 13 years of my school life with.

I was lucky to have had a great high school experience. Was I uber-confident as a teen? Not even remotely. Did I like everyone in my class? No. I had my share of drama, growing pains and ugly moments. But you know what I realize now? We ALL did. And thankfully, it seems like most of us have “found ourselves” and our place in the world.

The fact is, people may not completely change, but they DO mature. The same personality traits I loved in so many of my classmates back in the day were still there — they had just evolved — and I loved talking to people about their babies, wedding plans and careers. Facebook actually was a bonus since we didn’t have to start from scratch in every area of our lives.

Walking into the big room not knowing what to expect was nerve-wracking. But at the end of night, I felt like I had come home, reconnected with some great people, and left knowing I have some old new friends again.

This is my plea to you: Don’t poo-poo your reunion. If anything, it’s a great excuse to go out and have some laughs with people who knew you when you were younger. And who doesn’t love a reason to party? Go, and I guarantee you’ll walk away at peace with the past. Because nobody on that dance floor was concerned with what clique you belonged to 10 years ago.

All I know is that I’m already looking forward to getting down at our 20-year reunion!

Me with two of my best girlfriends from my high school days…and still today!

Do you attend your class reunions? Why or why not?


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  1. Sarah says

    Great post! And thank you, again, for convincing me to go. I had an awesome time, and it was refreshing to chat with so many people that I didn’t even really hang out with in high school. I definitely have a new respect for reunions!

  2. says

    I think it’s really sad that people don’t go to their reunions. They hide behind the “I talk to the people I want to talk to” mantra. I had the best time at my 20th reunion. Yes, I was still in contact with a lot of friends from back in the day, but it was great seeing those people you haven’t seen in a long time. Like you said, people mature. They’re interests change. You change. Go to your reunions! Risk having fun!
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  3. says

    Glad you went and had a good time, Lauren! Until last year, my class had only had one reunion: our 10 year. Sadly, the immature ones from school hadn’t grown up much in those 10 years. By the time last year rolled around (our *gasp* 40th one), I had reconnected with a lot of my classmates on FB. No one really wanted to plan anything, so (not to pat myself on the back), I arranged for us to have dinner at a nearby restaurant, and invited everyone back to our house for snacks/dessert and to visit. I went to a small school – about 25 in my class, and 10 of us were at the reunion. We had a blast: I even blogged about it!
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  4. says

    For me it’s been 7 years … I heard rumors of a 5 year reunion but IMO that’s way too soon – some of us were still in college then! I will probably attend my 10 year one if I am in the area.

  5. says

    I’ll be honest… I have never been to a class reunion and I don’t really have a good reason why either. I have lots of reasons for sure but none of then are great. Probably more like excuses really.

    I’m glad that you went though and had a great time!
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  6. Jade says

    Wonderful post :) It was GREAT 2 see you and meet your husband, wish we would have talked more but there is always time for that!!! ~Jade

  7. says

    Good for you for going (and for suggesting it to others)! Unfortunately, I missed my 10 – not due to skipping it, was truly busy. I look forward to our 20 year one – which is, I can’t even believe – in 2 years.